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Veterans and Adoptees

A new group has come up on my radar.  I am thrilled that such a group exists.  I had only met a few of us online.   I know many adoptees but the combination of veteran and adoptees are a little more hard to find.  I am one of those.  I have fought for my country in Desert Storm.  I am also an adoptee.  This group addresses those particular issues.  I as an American citizen who has done her civic duty as such is having her rights violated by the adoption industry and the states.  

Introducing AWOL - Adoptees Without Liberty.  This group is not just reserved for adoptees.  It also includes birth parents and adoptive parents who have served as well.  We are wanting our rights as American citizens restored.  We should not be considered incompetent by reason of adoption.  So please visit their Guestbook and give a big boost of support to them.  The state legislators need to hear that adoptees are not just your average joes.  We are also GI Joes and GI Janes.  

Can you tell which one is Me?


I am being gently reminded of who I was and who I will become once again.  Thank you Tim, Carrie, Todd, John, Patrick,  and so many more.  May God Bless You All!

Gorgeous Day

Today was a beautiful day outside.  It was actually in the 80s.  It is warm and sunshiny.  Today I feel like I accomplished some things.  I spoke with a couple of friends today.  I also got a great pep talk from a long time friend.   I also spoke with VA representative yesterday who gave me hope on a job source which would be doing something that I love. Although the day got off a little bumpy, it smoothed out with great ease.  I have been watching the news on the Haiti airlifting of children.  Like many other adoption bloggers, I am concerned about it.   I worry about potential corruption and fraud.  I worry about potential coercion of birth parents in that country.  I worry when politicians promise to speed up adoptions from a country that has been utterly destroyed by natural disaster.    

I will let those bloggers tell of their issues with it.  They know better on what is going on.  I haven't had the time to take care of it.  So make sure you keep yourself updated with the Bastardette with her stories.  I am sure that there are others out there.  Many states are also introducing legislation so be on the look out for that information as well.  Updates are popping up everywhere.    

So I am going to enjoy the sunshine, my children, and tranquility outside.  Enjoy your day.  

An Important Announcement from Bastard Nation

According to the Daily Bastardette,  Bastard Nation has issued an important statement on the status of Haitian orphans entering the United States.    Indiana Open as well as Texans for Adult Adoptees OBC Access supports their efforts in making sure that these children are protected.  

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For the last week, Bastard Nation, like the rest of the world, has been watching the devastation of Haiti. The images are frightening, sad, and heartrending, especially those of the children.

We have also watched with alarm the rush to rescue Haitian children by adoption. Within three days of the earthquake, Catholic Charities of Miami had set up a scheme modeled on Operation Pedro Pan, a joint State Department-CIA-Miami Diocese project in the early 1960s to separate children from their parents, creating young pawns in the US war against the Castro government. Although “Operation Pierre Pan” in Haiti is on hold, at least for now, numerous evangelical churches and ministries, adoption agencies, secular organizations, unfinalized adoptive parents and other individuals--many with conflicts of interest--have joined the rescue mission call to remove children immediately, no matter what their family status, to the US for the purpose of adoption.

Haiti is still under rubble. Aid is slow to arrive. Survivors are spread out in shelters and camps, or live in the streets. The dead are unnumbered, unknown, and unnamed. Family members continue to search for each for other, and it will take weeks or even months for final conciliation.

The rush to relocate orphans, quasi-orphans, and potential orphans internationally is ripe for coercion and fraud. Adoption agencies, church agencies, and ministries especially--along with fraudulent and predatory “child welfare” agents--have much to gain from fast removal. The trafficking of Haitian children for sex, servitude, and adoption operated in Haiti before the quake. It certainly operates now. The unethical and possibly unlawful mass transfer of traumatized children, many with family status unknown, to foreign shelters, foster care, and adoption agencies, removed from their culture and language, with little hope of family reunification cannot be allowed or tolerated. We urge US State Department and other US authorities in Haiti to (1) remove private special interests and those with conflicts of interest, such as adoption agencies and ministries, from the child welfare decision-making process and (2) halt the evacuation of children and their placement for adoption in the US.
We also urge the State Department to suspend pending adoptions. Haitian paperwork is lost or destroyed. Rock Cadet, the judge most responsible and knowledgeable about pipeline cases, died in the quake. Though the US Embassy survived, US paperwork is probably unavailable for some time, if it still exists. Without proof of Haitian court or Embassy status, any adoption removal from the country, without thorough background investigation and due process, is illegal and not in the best interest of the child

Needless to say, no new adoptions should be processed.

In the post-quake chaos, children need protection from predatory snatchers. Bastard Nation, therefore, supports the expedited removal of Haitian children, orphans or otherwise, to credible and documented parents or family members in the US for temporary or permanent placement depending on the circumstances. These children must not be assumed adoptable and scooped up for fast-track adoption. They should be a top priority. We urge the State Department or other government or credible private and disinterested agencies to assist Haitians in the US to locate child kin and bring them to the US.
We understand why people want to open their arms and hearts to the children of the Haitian earthquake, but adoption is not emergency or humanitarian aid or a solution to Haiti’s ongoing problems. The immediate rescue effort in Haiti should focus on emergency services, individual and family care and family reunification, not family, community, and cultural destruction and the strip-mining of children.


This statement has been faxed to the US State Department.

Ughhhhhhh Don't Understand This at All TWO

This country as well as many others need to update their artificial insemination and surrogacy laws.   These kinds of situations where adoption may be the only alternative in the legal scheme of things.  This is similar to the Birdman situation in Indiana.  They are getting more and more complicated.  This baby making stuff has gotten way out of control with the technology.  The laws have not had a chance to catch up.  Just like the closed era adoptees of yesterday, these children conceived in this type of environment will face many of our same issues.  

It never stops to amaze when everyone is considering everything else but the best interests and needs of the children.

Need Legal Advice?

In this day and age, everyone needs to consult with an attorney.   American Residential Law Group has a wiki page that addresses many of the home loan modifications that homeowners face today.  That is important for many people today.  Foreclosures are still at an all time high.  Attorneys are scrambling to help home owners keep their homes. This law firm is dedicated to the consumer.  They will protect your rights when or if you are facing a foreclosure.   They will protect you from the big banking bullies that are now running the housing market.  This article is really informative. 

Emotional Triggers

Every where in adopto land people discuss emotional triggers in adoption.  I have been doing a great deal of thinking about those kinds of issues.  I am doing my best to heal from this situation.  Its going to take me at least two years to heal from this life that I am living now. I am just not too keen on that.  I don't want this to take that long.  I don't have a choice.   I talked to one of my closest friends last night.  He and I go back to the age of 13.  We have known each other thirty one years.  I really can not hide my emotional side from him because he picks up on all of my little tricks.  I can't bull shit my way around him and vice versa.  We were talking about whether either one of us will get married.  We both agreed that it required too much work.  If you are in relationship where you are doing all the work and sacrificing, you will lose no matter what.  We also talked about wanting to around adults.  We want to have one day where we can interact with other adults.  

I have been reading "I Say This Because I Love You."  It is about talking.  It is about metamessages along with regular messages.  What our body language, our tone of voice and even the wording of discussions come into play and how they affect our personal family relationships.  I have also been reading "Divorce and New Beginnings."  It allows me to do a little bit of journaling privately in a notebook.  It allows me to really think about what is happening now and in the past thirteen years.  Triggers came up for me.   I am learning exactly what those triggers are.  

Just Chilling

I have been spending time reading books.  Its books about all kinds of topics.  They range from my favorite authors like Richard North Patterson to self help books.  I have even read some religious dating books along with books understanding the context in which the Bible was written.  They are all books that help me move forward.  I have also been hanging out on websites that are not adoption related but are important to healing in my life.   They are not important necessarily to me but they provide a place to meet other women such as myself.  It is good to know that there are others like me. 

I am trying to find a topic that helps feed my need to fill my life with purpose.  Adoption and labor issues have always been on the forefront fro me.  Veterans issues are also on the forefront for me as well.  I want something different.  Although I believe in animal rights, some times even they go too far.  I think single parenting is a good thing that needs to be addressed in the state legislatures.  It is very difficult to find resources for displaced homemakers.  There needs to be a website that is dedicated to their needs.  

With the economy still in the tank, women and children need to know what their options are.  In this economy, I am discovering more and more relationships are bottoming out because of financial pressures.  Women are having to go back to college to learn new skills.  Women have to rely on many things to help them see things through.  

I really hate that so many families are being torn apart by this situation.  It happens every time the economy sinks rapidly like ours has.  Men and women are seeking ways to drug themselves for the pain in their lives.   There have been numerous stories in the news of people losing their jobs and seeking vengeance on their employers.  There are families in dire need and yet our country can not see fit to care for them.  People wonder why women return to domestically violent situations.  Based on my experience alone, it is the speed in which the government moves for its most troubled people.  

I must have hundreds of applications in to various employers across this area.  Its been tough.  I put in another ten applications today alone early this morning.  I have faith that I will have a job. I know that I will find the right one for me and my family.  I have faith that my family will be restored.  I have faith that my family will heal through all this horrible dust storm.  I have faith that God will carry us through because all I see are one set of footprints in the sand right now.  I know that they are His.   

Patience is a virtue.  I am learning it every day.  




Humor and Sarcasm Can Get a Person Through Their Day

Humor can get a person through their day.  Sarcasm mixed with humor can do the same thing.  I know because that is how I have done it for years.   It keeps things in perspective for me.  It does the same for my daughters.  Humor can lighten the load for an individual.  It allows the good hormones to flow more freely than the bad hormones.   Sometimes we all need a good laugh. 

Here is an interesting story about Glowing kitties.   There is a ton more stories out of there of the weird and just plain humorous.

By the way, I have updated all of the my blogs recently.  So be sure to visit them.  It appears that not every one knows about them.   So I want to make they hit those as well.  Sorry they are just adoption related.  They are not even aimed at anyone in particular.  Nothing really exciting about them either.   Keep in mind that I have not been real active on them since I have been a little distracted.   

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