Emotional Triggers
Every where in adopto land people discuss emotional triggers in adoption. I have been doing a great deal of thinking about those kinds of issues. I am doing my best to heal from this situation. Its going to take me at least two years to heal from this life that I am living now. I am just not too keen on that. I don't want this to take that long. I don't have a choice. I talked to one of my closest friends last night. He and I go back to the age of 13. We have known each other thirty one years. I really can not hide my emotional side from him because he picks up on all of my little tricks. I can't bull shit my way around him and vice versa. We were talking about whether either one of us will get married. We both agreed that it required too much work. If you are in relationship where you are doing all the work and sacrificing, you will lose no matter what. We also talked about wanting to around adults. We want to have one day where we can interact with other adults.
I have been reading "I Say This Because I Love You." It is about talking. It is about metamessages along with regular messages. What our body language, our tone of voice and even the wording of discussions come into play and how they affect our personal family relationships. I have also been reading "Divorce and New Beginnings." It allows me to do a little bit of journaling privately in a notebook. It allows me to really think about what is happening now and in the past thirteen years. Triggers came up for me. I am learning exactly what those triggers are.
Posted by Amy Adoptee at 1/17/2010 5:23 PM 
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